Hi, sorry if you have found this blog because you were searching google for “violent pornography.” I hope you wank yourself to death, weirdo.
I’m posting this because I’ve been reading up on Andrea Dworkin and other “radical” feminists that have become the bogey[wo]men to some people. And I’ve been having a long, hard think about the nature of pornography so I can decide where I stand.
I’ve always opposed it based on the grounds that it commodified and dehumanised the most natural and human act we have left, and totally avoided questions regarding the morality of it and the psychology of it, purely because they intimidated me. Plus – when you think about it too long it can start to make you feel very uncomfortable.
The link between rape and violent pornography is particularly interesting. Is rape the cause or the resultant of pornography? Well, both, I think. I think it is a manifestation of power and violence over women in much the same way as rape is, and so is both inspired by and an inspiration for rape itself.
So many people think it is harmless, “the women get paid well for it and it is their decision” etc etc. Well what kind of world do we live in when that is an attractive option for a woman?! As for the money, I think it comes at a cost to self-esteem and self-respect, thanks.
Something that struck me from my past when I was reading various articles – agreeing with some things and disagreeing with others – was my reaction upon discovering my boyfriend’s porn when I was 15. I just remember feeling totally disgusted, just feeling sick. The thought of him being excited by it made me feel inadequate, disposable, violated.. and a lot less attracted to him. It’s such an ugly thing, I don’t think many guys get how unsexy porn can be for a woman.
And when I spoke to a [male] friend about it, all he had to say was “trust me, you should be grateful for porn. That is where guys learn all they know about sex.”
Well, LUCKY ME. Funnily enough, that was exactly what I feared.
PS. I feel the same about gay and lesbian pornography. The former generally degrading one to an “effeminate” and so impained, submissive role and the latter projecting the fantasies of heterosexual males as opposed to bisexual or lesbian females. The powerful male lurks behind all pornographic material.
PSS. In arguments, the whole “dominatrix” thing is often brought up as an argument FOR women in porn. The only reason men find it so uncommonly erotic to watch a sexually assertive and aggressive woman is because it is so unlike the norm – it is alien, and so highly exciting. In much the same way as black or asian women are often eroticised in pornography.
PSSS. Don’t even get me STARTED on all that “barely legal” shit. Hiya, paedo.
